Thursday, September 11


13 years ago our nation was attacked.  It took our collective breath away. I remember the horror of watching the buildings fall, the news coverage jumping from Pennsylvania to the Pentagon and then back again to the Twin Towers.  Finally, once we felt the danger was over, everyone pitched in to help.  Our country was united in a way that I’d never experienced.  Politics aside, we helped, lifted, served and loved one another. 

My grandpa is a WWII vet who was stationed at Pearl Harbor when it was bombed.  His generation served their country and then came home with their hearts set on family.  In his 90’s now, he lives in the same house he raised his children in. He works in his garden, crafts homemade wood boxes, is active on social media and loves to be surrounded by his family.  He lives simply and happily.  He has lived this way for his entire adult life.

After a tragedy, the shiny complications of life fall away and we are left to focus on what is most important:  family, love, community, service, and God.  Slowly, the lessons learned are tucked away in our memories and we go back to focusing on the newest iPhone, the prettiest cars and all other modern fancies.

September is the last month before the rush of the holidays overtakes us.  October brings Halloween with fists full of candy.  November ushers in Thanksgiving.  Gratitude is always a blessing but somehow we’ve managed to juxtapose it with gorging ourselves and shopping all night.  December brings joy, but also a frantic hunt for the perfect gift, mailing of Christmas cards, planning and attending party after party.  To top it all off, we stay up all night on New Year’s Eve dancing, singing and laughing.  I’m not complaining!  I love the holidays as much as the next girl.  I’m simply pointing out that September is the last time we have to breathe before we are swept away.

Simply September.  This is the perfect time to scale back and to consciously focus on what is most important.  This month I’m purging my every nook and cranny.  I have three large bins set up in my living room:  Trash, Donate and Sell.   I’ve cut the fluff out of my budget (do I really need BOTH Birchbox and Ipsy?  Netflix and Hulu?  iCloud and Dropbox?).  I am simplifying my eating, my exercise and sleeping better than I have in a long time.  I’m stripping my calendar of its excess and focusing on my loved ones.

In a world that values busyness and that thrives on overcomplication, I’ve dedicated September to Simplicity.  I solemnly swear to cherish every true-love handhold, every puppy kiss and snuggle, every long conversation with a best friend.  I will cherish every delicious bite, every can’t-put-you-down book and every kneeling prayer.

What can you do to simplify this month? Let’s share our plans with #SimplySeptember!

Thursday, August 21

A Love Affair

It has been over four years since I left Prague and returned back to Florida but I left a part of my heart there.  Today marks a cruel day in history for the Czechs and Slovaks.  On the 21st of August in 1968 the Soviets began their occupation of Prague, shutting down their milder socialist reforms and instituting communism (Soviet style) in Czechoslovakia.  

When you walk the streets of Prague there are moments when you are transported back in time to what seems like a fairy tale. A large castle, cobblestoned streets, and medieval bridges surround you. But the more you explore, the more you see.  The history is complex with dense and winding stories of freedom, wars, deaths and occupations. 

I often rode trams with the elderly wondering what their lives had been like. They experienced World War II, the Soviet Invasion, the Velvet Revolution. They experienced first hand what we now read in history books.  Their faces are etched with intimate knowledge of a pain, devastation, fear and relief that I will (hopefully) never know.  

As a girl of Czech descent, I loved traveling to the Moravian countryside to see where my ancestors lived before emigrating to the United States.  It was incredible to know more (the good and the bad) about the culture and heritage running through my veins.

Today as I watch videos and first-hand accounts of that day so many Augusts ago, my heart aches in my chest.  I know those streets.  I love those people. And I sit here stunned.  How can a place be such a part of me when I only I lived there 21 months?

{M} just came back from his first trip to Europe.  He was exploring Scotland (his personal family background).  He came over on Monday with a laptop full of pictures, his eyes bright and eager to explain what he had seen, where he had explored, and why he loved it.  It was incredible to watch.  It reminded me of my first time abroad as a junior in college studying in London.

The truth is that when you travel and live abroad, particularly when you have a personal connection to the location, your heart expands.  There is a special experience and love that comes with travel.  It is a softness and understanding, a kinship and sweetness that is infused into you.  If you’ve ever said “maybe” or “someday I will” to traveling and exploring another country and culture.  Start making it happen.  You will never be the same again.

Monday, August 18

It’s Okay to be a Beginner

I love watching toddlers. They have wobbly legs but are determined to explore! Have you ever seen a toddler anxiously peering up a bookcase worried about what his friends would think if he tried to climb it?  Does he sit there petrified that someone might see him fall?  He might worry about getting in trouble, but even that fear rarely stops a toddler.  He goes for it!

Somewhere in life that fear of what others think begins to take over our minds curbs our  sense of adventures.  Questions of “what if” crowd out the deeper desires and we relegate personal talents and experiences to a closet full of “somedays”.  

If you are anything like me I will make excuses, put off “adventures” until “someday” and then look back and say “why didn’t I?”  Why didn’t I start my own business?  Why didn’t I take that pottery class?  Why didn’t I buy that perfect sofa on clearance?  

What are you putting off?  What dreams are on the sidelines that you could put out into the field?  You might be a beginner at first.  We all are at some point, but you won’t be a beginner for long.  Soon you will be the one someone else is looking at saying “Wow!  She’s got guts! Maybe if she can do it, then I can too.”

So start your novel, your art class, your accounting business.  Start small if you want, but just start!  You might fall but that’s okay, dust yourself off and try again.  Who knows where the adventure might lead?  Ask questions.  Be humble and enjoy the experience of just starting out.  Your adventure is just beginning.

Friday, August 8

Succulent Selflessness

Happy Friday!  I'm so excited for this weekend.  I'll be spending time with great friends.  {M} is gallivanting around Scotland so I get my weekend to catch up with the girls!  Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, manicures/pedicures, delicious meals . . . all great things.

Lately I’ve made it a goal to eat more fruits and vegetables. From the cutting board, to my salads and dripping down my chin my life has been juicier.  Eating so many fresh fruits and veggies has helped refine my palate. Flavors that I once took for granted are now bursting to life and dancing on my tongue.  Why hadn’t I noticed how delicious and succulent the produce was around me? How have I overlooked it?  Some of it I had eaten it half-heartedly or begrudgingly in the past.  Now I am excited to taste more and try more.

In my study this morning I realized that people and places can be the same as my delicious fresh produce!  It is easier to label a person or a place and to put it on the shelf than it is to dive into their world, see things from their eyes and seek to understand.  My favorite moments in life have all come from a deeper level of understanding and love.  There is nothing sweeter than learning more about someone you love or exploring a new place with fondness and curiosity.  So, what if we approached each person, place and moment with that same heightened appreciation and curiosity?

We are all a blend of savory, sweet and spicy.  We have our lovable parts and our less-than-lovable parts. It’s the complexity that makes us unique and interesting.  It’s the complexity that makes us juicy!  My take-away from this epiphany is that if I label someone or some place or some thing and then close my mind to them . . . I am doing everyone a disservice.  

Perhaps I just need to be a bit more curious, ask a few more questions and seek to understand them.  Just like I want to taste all my produce in new ways.  I want to explore the world around me in new ways and re-connect with people with questioning curiosity and honest understanding.  This is selflessness (in my opinion). Seeking to understand someone else instead of making myself understood is selflessness.  

Monday, August 4

Time For a Fresh Start


It’s that time of year again!  Beach gear is heading back into storage.  School supplies are on sale. The days are getting shorter.  The “fresh start” that comes with the onset of fall and the new school year is infused into our culture. Even if you are well beyond school age it's hard to resist the lure of change.

The new school year is a better launching point for creating new habits and pursuing new goals than January. In the summer we spent time with family and great friends.  We are warm from the sun and relaxed from the slower pace.  We have been eating fresh foods (thanks to delicious in season produce).  And now, from this happy place, we are ready to grab life and make important changes.  With new routines on their way (school schedules, traffic schedules, sporting events, etc) it’s an ideal time to start thinking about what other new habits and routines you want to create.

Are you ready to intensify your workouts?  Continue to eat fresh foods? Volunteer at a local school?  Start a new art course?

What goals have you been flirting with?  What changes would you love to make?  

It’s time!

I went to the store and picked up slews of fresh fruits and veggies.  This freshness, combined with my taking on new clients and building my business, gives me plenty to work towards this Fall.

How about you?  

Join me with #FreshStartAugust2014 and share your goals!

Thursday, July 24

5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Bridezilla

1. Be Patient with Yourself

This is a time in your life you have always dreamed about.  Picking out a dream gown.  Having bridal showers, engagement parties and bachelorette parties thrown for you.  Rallying with your family to celebrate the love of your life.  With so many expected highs and joys, the lows, the frustration and the discouragement might surprise you.  Don’t let these negative emotions overwhelm you.  They are normal with any massive life change.  The sooner you can accept them as normal, the easier it will be to move through them (and on to the next great high).  Allow yourself the room to be imperfect, emotional, frustrated and disappointed.  In acknowledging your feelings you can help prevent nasty bridezilla blame and tantrums.  When you are feeling low, take some time alone or with a close friend to talk out your feelings and to deal with them.  Sometimes a great night’s sleep, a hard workout, or a long cry will be all you need.

2. Think of Others

As a bride, it is easy to focus on yourself but don’t forget that you are surrounded by people that love you, are celebrating with you and who also have their own lives to live.  As natural as it is to become self-involved and wrapped  up in this time, a sure-fire way to stave of the beastly bridezilla is to spend time actively considering your fiance, your family and your close friends cheering you on.  Plan a special date night for your sweetheart.  Take your best friend out for the evening and listen to everything happening in her life.  Do something kind for your mother (or future mother-in-law).  Focusing on others immediately reminds of the special people in your life and helps you appreciate them.

3. Embrace Joy

You can substitute joy with any positive emotion that you’d like (happiness, love, fun, gratitude).  The important thing is that you consciously choose to infuse each wedding task and personal interaction with it.  For example, if you are going wedding dress shopping rather than agonizing whether or not you’ll find your perfect dress, you can decide to make it a joyful experience for you and everyone with you.  When you look for the joy (or fun or love or happy) in any and every situation, you will find it!  Much of the stress bridezillas experience comes because they inadvertently ride the waves of whatever emotion and feeling comes their way.  You can choose the way you feel and approach each situation!

4. Laugh

Laughter is healthy.  It cuts through pain, frustration and even grief.  I makes you look beautiful and feel good.  If you feel your inner-bridezilla coming on, turn on your comedy of choice STAT!  Laugh, laugh, laugh until you feel like yourself again.  Bonus points for getting together with someone else and laughing to your hearts’ content.  There is no downside to laughter.

5. Get Some Perspective

One of my favorite coaching tasks I assign to clients is to find a way to volunteer and serve someone in a different situation.  Feeding the homeless, caring for the sick or even cheering up the elderly can give a much needed reality-check during hectic stressful times.  It might seem like one more item on an ever-growing “to do” list, but stopping to help someone else can clear your mind and force you to see things through a new perspective.  Centerpiece choices seem trivial when feeding a young family who has no where to live and no food to eat.  After caring for a terminal cancer patient, you might find yourself aching to repair your relationship with your mom.  Whatever new perspective you need, service is one of the best ways to find it.  Animal shelters, hospitals, retirement homes, food banks and churches will often have slews of volunteer work available. You can set up a regular time to volunteer or just come in for one shift.  Either way, everyone wins.

Even the sweetest brides will wrestle with demons during their engagement.  You are not alone! Use one (or all) of these tips to keep your sanity and sweetness throughout this momentous time.  Everyone around you will love you for it.

Monday, July 21

Old Friends

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Even though I haven't written, I've been thinking about you.  I've written "letters" (blog posts) over and over again in my mind and in my journal for the last 15 months.  

Can we be those old friends that pick up right where we left off as if no time has passed?

So much has changed in the last few years.  I finished my M.B.A (no more brain cramps from financial stats and spreadsheets) and fell in love with the man of my dreams (he's amazing).  We'll call him {M}.  I've moved (same town, new home).  And . . . . I've relaunched my full-time coaching practice!  It took saving, dreaming and work to make it possible, but I am back coaching 100% of the time.  When I coach, I blog and that means I'll be here again.

My coaching practice is:  Luminous Brides and I'm specializing in helping women make the transition from single to married with joy and grace.  There is so much more to a marriage than the wedding and I love supporting brides.  I stumbled on the niche accidentally.  Many of my coaching clients over the five years have gotten engaged and then married.  I found myself loving those coaching moments most and it felt like a natural place to relaunch my practice.  I've never stopped coaching entirely, but it feels good to be back 100% and full-time.

I'm now accepting new clients and am holding initial consultations throughout the day.  Email me if you are interested.  If you aren't a bride this blog will apply to you too.  Can't wait to hear from you and to be here with you again.

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